Stephen Grosz with Oliver Burkeman for Love's Labour
Friday 26th June, 7pm
The Bookshop, York, 1 Museum Street, York YO1 7DT
6.30pm
7pm
Stephen Grosz is a practicing psychoanalyst, and has worked with patients for more than forty years. The Examined Life, his Number One bestselling debut, was about learning how to live; his new book, Love's Labour, is about learning how to love.
Our event with be chaired by Oliver Burkeman, the author of the Sunday Times bestselling Four Thousand Weeks, The Antidote and Meditations for Mortals. For many years, Oliver wrote a popular weekly column on psychology for the Guardian, 'This Column Will Change Your Life'. He has a devoted following for his writing on productivity, mortality, the power of limits, and building a meaningful life in an age of bewilderment.
When it comes to love why do we find things so difficult? Drawing on over forty years of candid and surprising conversations with his patients, Stephen Grosz asks, what gets in the way of our falling in love? And what must we do to stay there?
In the intimate space of the consulting room, we meet the woman who can't post her wedding invitations but then, decades later, can't decide whether to get divorced; the friendship group that explodes when an adulterous affair begins; and the man whose partner's death is almost too much to bear.
As an analyst, Grosz's unerring ability is to locate what ails the heartsick. As a writer, he elegantly shows how we can deploy the agonies of love as tools for understanding.
The labour of love is the work of a lifetime but in finally learning to see ourselves and our world clearly, we find we are truly ready to love one another.
Praise for The Examined Life:
'Grosz's vignettes are so brilliantly put together that they read like pieces of bare, illuminating fiction. . . . It is this combination of tenacious detective work, remarkable compassion and sheer, unending curiosity for the oddities of the human heart that makes these stories utterly captivating.' Sunday Times
'Writing with sympathy and insight, Grosz distils years of work into a series of slim, piercing chapters that read like a combination of Chekhov and Oliver Sacks.' New York Times
'I was enthralled . . . profound and moving, large ideas packed into a slim volume' Observer