Melissa Febos for The Dry Season: Finding Pleasure in a Year Without Sex

Melissa Febos, the national bestselling author of Whip Smart, Abandon Me, Girlhood and Body Work, comes to the bookshop in celebration of her new book The Dry Season: Finding Pleasure in a Year Without Sex.

'Reading The Dry Season is like having a nourishing conversation with a smart, wry and ever-probing friend - a conversation so full of wisdom and pleasure that you don't want it to end.' MAGGIE NELSON

‘Melissa Febos’ The Dry Season will be called a book about abstinence, about celibacy, but it’s so much more than that [...] It’s the best book yet by one of contemporary non-fiction’s lodestars’ KAVEH AKBAR

In the wake of a disastrous two-year relationship, Melissa Febos decided to take a break - for three months she would abstain from dating, relationships and sex. Her friends were amused. Did she really think three months was a long time? But to Melissa, it was. Ever since her teens, she had been in one relationship or another. It was time to focus on herself and examine the lifelong patterns that had got her to this point. When those three months ended, she decided to extend her celibate period, fearing that she had not yet gained the clarity she was searching for. She knew she was taking on a challenge but had no idea that this year would become the most fulfilling and sensual of her life.

No longer defined by her romantic pursuits, Melissa learned to relish the delights of solitude, the thrill of living on her own terms, the pleasures unmediated by lovers and the freedom to pursue her ideals without distraction or guilt. She began to see her life and her self-worth in a radical new way. Her year of divestment transformed her relationships with friends and peers, her work, creativity - and most of all her relationship to herself.